August 31, 2015

The Six Mom Camps of the Breastfeeding vs. Formula Battle

Heads up, moms. I'm giving you fair warning now, while you can still prepare yourself and build a thick skin for what's coming. You're about to stumble into a hotbed of heated debates. There is no way to avoid it. You will get the side-eye, no matter what you choose, as someone won't be happy with your personal, none-of-their-damn-business choice. You will find your nearest and dearest, who you never thought capable of it, extolling the virtues of their choice as they try to make you one follow suit. Moms you've never met are about to pounce on you in the store and even online. No one is safe. You, my unwitting friend, are about to be blindsided with the new breastfeeding-or-formula-feeding throw down. There are six main camps of moms you're about to encounter.




The Breast is Best, Screw the Rest Mom
This mom is loud and proud about her breastfeeding. No covers or modesty for her. If baby is hungry she'll whip that boob right out while sitting in the middle of a crowded room and leave the other uncovered for good measure as well. She'll be the one glaring down everyone within 50 yards, daring them to make one comment about her tatas flapping in the wind. Should you dare to mention formula, you'll get an hour-long lecture about the evils of it and the horribleness of the moms who would dare to expose their children to such horrors. As far as she is concerned, if you don't breastfeed you don't care about your baby enough and are not a good mom. Every mom can do it, if she really wants to.
The Breast is Best, But Do What's Best For You Mom
She's a firm believer that breastfeeding is best for babies, but also understands that not all moms can breastfeed. She supports everyone's choice and recognizes that it's a very personal decision. When feeding her baby, she may whip out the boob or keep it covered up. It's her choice, please don't make a thing about it. As long as the babies are fed, she doesn't give a care how it's done. Why can't we all just get along?

The Do Whatever You Want, Leave Me Alone Mom
This mom may breastfeed or formula feed. She doesn't really talk about it and is usually discreet with her method of feeding no matter what it is. Quite frankly, she doesn't give a damn, my dear, how you feed your baby and doesn't think it's any of your business whether a boob or a bottle nipple is served up to her baby. If you try to start a debate with her over baby feeding, she'll probably ask you how the weather is. If you still don't get the hint, she'll mysteriously be hearing the baby cry to escape your soap boxing.


The Breast Feeding Didn't Work Mom
This mom tried breast feeding and gave it her absolute best shot. It simply, for whatever reason, didn't work. Maybe she didn't produce, the baby didn't latch, it drove her to the edge of her sanity, or her milk just didn't have the needed nutrients. There are many valid reasons why breastfeeding doesn't always work, and she knows it. She wanted to nurse her child and feels bad for using formula. Seeing "breastfeeding is best" on the formula cans, reading it all over the internet and having it shoved down her throat at every turn is more upsetting than she'll admit. Preaching at her about breastfeeding and giving her tips is just a slap in the face. She's heard it so often she's about to puke. Given the chance, she'll tell you to back the heck off and mind your own leaky tits, hers are dried up and the damn formula is just fine.  

The Formula is Great, Save Yourself a Hassle Mom
She has heard all about how breast feeding is best, but she also knows formula is just fine. Either she tried breast feeding and found it to be too much of a hassle or avoided it all together after hearing it's not always so easy. She also may or may not find the idea of another human sucking on her nipples to be gross. Happy with her choice, she stands behind it and encourages other moms to do what's best for them. Don't like her choice? Good for you, she doesn't care. So stop with the guilt trip.  


The Formula is Best, Forget the Breast Mom
These moms tend to be a rare breed. She doesn't go in for this breastfeeding thing. Formula was the go-to for years, why is everyone going on and on about boobs now? Give it a few years and everyone is going to be yammering on about formula again. She knows formula is best and doesn't care what anyone else says. Pass the formula can, please, her boobs are staying right where they are.

The Rest
Many other moms fall somewhere in between these camps. It's amazing how heated people get over the personal choice of how a mom feeds her a child. Wait until you're in the hot seat about your decision. I wish you luck.


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23 comments:

  1. It's definitely crazy how people get so involved with how other people are feeding their babies. I'm kind of like, I do my thing, you do yous, let's still be friends. I am still breastfeeding my 15 month old and people give me such stuff about it, so I wouldn't ever want to make someone feel uncomfortable about how they feed their child.

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    1. I'm the same way, as long as the baby is being taken care of and fed, it's no one's business. Everyone does what works best for them.

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  2. I think it's what works best for mum. She will manage the constraints!

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  3. I am a do whatever you want and leave me alone. It's a completely individual decision.

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  4. I'm the "do whatever works for your family" mom LOL This has gotten to be a very heated and sometimes ugly, debate.

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  5. You do what is best to get the baby fed. That is the main goal.

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  6. I'm totally the do whatever you want & leave me alone mom! lol! Please and thank you!

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    1. That's me, too. As long as the baby is taken care of, it shouldn't matter!

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  7. Women can get really worked up about this topic. I'm of the belief that everyone has to do what works for them. As long as your baby is getting food and love you're good.

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  8. I am relly tired of the whole debate. No right or wrong.

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  9. While the breast provides the most nutrition, it is not best for many mothers. I think what works for mother and child is best - including feeding in public if the child is hungry.

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  10. I leave which ever the mom chooses to her self but I would prefer to not see her boob flopping in the wind. Just saying but I tend to be a more modest/discreet person and wouldn't want to share my boobs with the world.

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  11. I'm in the I breastfeed, but you don't have to group!

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  12. Aww, I think I've gone through like 3 stages with my two kids. Lol. Breastfeeding is important, I'm an advocate.

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  13. Ditto with Rachel Mouton. Every mom is different. There are moms that don't have enough milk and there are those who can breastfeed their child until they are three.

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  14. Breastfeeding is always and will always be the best. Great post indeed detailing each and every kind of moms.

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  15. I honestly have no judgment on any of these moms. We all do what's best for us and our children.

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  16. Do you! This is my motto in life. I breastfed and used formula and have two healthy children.

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  17. I'm not sure where I fall... I breastfed all four of mine, but for everyone else, I say to each his own and do what's best for you and your family. :)

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  18. I myself prefer breast milk. I did with my two kids who are now 12 and 9. Some mothers are not blessed with enough supply of breast milk that they have no choice but to bottle feed their babies. What matter most is as long as the baby is feed and full and that is the best.

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  19. Fun post. I guess I would fall into The Breast is Best, But Do What's Best For You Mom group.

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  20. I'm currently the second mom, but I was the third with my son. Moms, you do YOU! We're all going to have our challenges, and whatever works for you, is ultimately what's best for your baby.

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