December 29, 2015

New Year's Resolutions 2016 Edition

The new year is right around the corner. It's there, peeking around the corner, just three days away. Promises of a clean slate and what is to come beckon. No one knows what the next year is going to bring. I like to set myself up with a direction and goals for the upcoming year. Something to work on. Something to work toward. Evaluating the past year and figuring out where it is I want to go helps me grow to be a better me, as a mom, wife, blogger, daughter, friend, writer and everything else I am. Everyone is a work in progress so why not set yourself up in the right direction?

Looking back, 2015 held surprises I could never have imagined. I'm a planner, but what was thrown at us wasn't anything for which I'd planned. To be totally honest, I never saw any of it coming. So much in life is simply not possible to foresee no matter how much you try to prepare yourself for any eventualities. Some of the major curve balls I didn't see coming were M2's autism diagnosis and A's pay cut. Both changed our lives in ways we didn't expect. Both happened around the same time. Both sent us into a tailspin trying to find a new normal. It's still a normal that we're trying to find. The next year promises to be another year of figuring out what is to come. A lot of adjusting and figuring out what works best is in store.

While I can't control our income or M2's special needs, there are still goals I can set for things I do have more influence on. I learned long ago that we can't change other people or events, all we can control is ourselves and our reactions. Well, as much as we can because face it, sometimes we all just lose it. Emotions take over and we just go along for the ride. There's also the matter of realizing not all the goals are going to happen because, again, life is life!

e can plan, we can set resolutions, but in the end, as John Lennon once said, "Life is what happens while you're busy making plans." When it comes down to it, we need to roll with the punches life throws as the year goes on. Who knows what it'll bring. Take each day as it comes, do your best, focus on the good times, get through the bad with the help of those who love you and make the most of the time you're given. 

With all that out of the way, here are my 2016 resolutions.

Find balance
I've been feeling out of balance lately as a mom, wife, blogger and even as myself. I want to find the balance between the different aspects of who I am so I can be better at each.

Manage expectations
I always expect too much of myself and sometimes of others. This year, I want to manage my expectations so that I'm not set up for disappointment.

Bake at the next level
If you've been around here for a bit, you know I love to bake. I'm always trying to improve my skills and expand my abilities. In 2016, I want to continue that. Cake decorating is one of the big ones I'm going to focus on. I've got the baking down, now my decorating needs to improve!

Lose to gain myself
I have a goal weight that is about 90 pounds less than I am now. I'm simply not happy, healthy or comfortable at the weight I am now, despite losing 87 pounds the past year. In the spirit of managing expectations, I know losing all that in 2016 isn't going to happen. What can happen is eating better, getting more exercise and losing at least 50 pounds. That'll set me up to lose the last 40 in 2017. I'll be losing to gain a healthier, happier me. I plan to finish out my "The Fat Kid" Tells All series and write more about my weight loss over the next year.

I've been working on accepting that I can't control everything, that life is going to take unexpected turns no matter how hard I try to see every twist coming. That is going to continue.

With our change in finances, I'm going to think up new ways to save, find creative ways to meet the budget and get our spending into a new normal that fits our lifestyle. I'll be starting out with looking at the budget from last year, seeing what has changed and setting a new one for this year using my 7 easy tips.

Family fun
I really want to do more fun activities and day trips as a family. It really felt like we didn't do enough of that this year. Building awesome memories in 2016 is a must!

I want to write more posts, like this one, that come straight from the heart. Sharing more of myself and my life is something I hope helps others when they're experiencing similar things. I'm always looking for books, stories, blogs, etc., that I can read and relate to. I hope to do the same for all of you. Plus, it's fun and interesting to hear about other people's lives, I think. In the plan is also doing some layout and design change around here.

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Happy New Year!

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  1. That sounds like an awesome list of goals.. and I can't believe you lost 87 pounds this year! That is amazing, you go!!

    1. Thank you! I keep telling myself when I think, "OMG, 90lbs is so much to loose!" that I've already lost 87 so should be able to!

  2. Great list! Happy new year!

  3. Great list of goals for 2016. Congrats on losing so much weight. I'm down 42 lbs since May. I actually just started documenting my weight loss journey on Youtube and Facebook.

  4. Balance is definitely and important one! Something I learned later in the year last year.

    1. I'm really hoping to achieve it this year! I hope you're able to as well. :)


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