The many lessons I've learned from people in my life are what I always end up remembering about them, even after they've passed on or simply aren't in my life anymore. People leave marks on our hearts, making us who we are. The ones who have taught me something are the ones who have had the most influence on me and who are the most precious. The lessons from my mom are extra special since she's my mother. What she has taught me has shaped who I am since day one. She's taught me much more than these 10 things, of course.
All of the 10 lessons I'm sharing with you are lessons I'll never forget. Each one has a memory that goes with it that I cherish.
Has your own mother taught you something that has stuck with you? I'd love to hear about it in the comments! Happy Mother's Day!
2. Family is important, even when they suckWriting off family isn't an option, no matter how crazy, nasty or off-the-wall they are. It's family, so we work it out. If someone needs to be bailed out of a tight spot, we're there for them. That's just what family does. There may be a whole lot of yelling in the process, but we're still there when they need us. Love them. Support them. Stick by them. Even the sucky ones I wish I weren't actually related to half the time. Feel free to pick up the phone and let another family member know how craptastic they're being at the moment, though. Just be up front and inform said member of their suckage directly, too. Venting is healthy. Then let it go a week later when there's something interesting to talk to them about. Because they're family.
3. Keep fighting, even when it seems impossible, do what needs to be doneIf someone tells you something is impossible, figure out a way and do it despite them. If something goes wrong, keep at it until it's right. Be the best, work hard, keep fighting. If life throws a lemon at your head, don't give up, keep on going. This applies to everything from school and work to health problems, family, marriage (stick with it, work it out), and the insurance company or store who screwed you over and owes you money. In the case of the insurance company or store, remember that kindness matters. If that gets you no where, talk to a manager and raise holy hell if you must while still being respectful, of course. Just remember to thank them for their help after they fix the problem.
4. Treat guests like familyWell, how you'd treat family if you were a "normal" family. Really, you'd think my sister and I were raised in the South, not that I'm a transplant, with some of mom's life lessons. Nope, we were Northerners (the rest of my family still is). We still roll out the Southern-style hospitality, though. Guests are treated like family (even if you don't like them).
This includes: 1. presenting a clean house 2. a properly appointed bathroom (soap, toilet paper and fresh towels with properly clean facilities) 3. providing comfortable, clean sheets and blankets for overnight guests 4. providing drinks and a snack 5. preparing a meal the guest likes, being aware of allergies and foods the guest doesn't care for 6. being polite, respectful and kind 7. set a nice table 8. always have enough food, it's better to have too much than not enough -- you don't want people to have to count their peas 9. hide the crazy until after the guests leave (the goal is for them to think they're visiting a typical family, not one ready to join the circus because the kids are swinging from the ceiling, food is being thrown across the room, daddy's pants have a hole and mommy burn the dinner three ways to Sunday 10. be sweet as pie, which includes not complaining about anyone until after they leave if it's someone you really don't like and wish they'd go far, far away, but politeness requires an invite (remember how I said you'd think we were always Southerners? Think Steele Magnolias here.) Note: If it's actually family visiting, feel free to let the crazy flag fly and put them to work. They're stuck with you anyway. Still adhere to 1, 2, 3, 4 and 8, however.